We Americans have a way of making horrible tragedies into celebrations. In psychology, we call it reframing. Maybe the most artful reframing is done on Memorial Day. On Memorial Day we have barbecues, family gatherings, parades and people wave the red, white and blue. We worry about how we look in our bathing suits. We eat and drink too much, go to baseball games or just mindlessly chill. There are some sobering facts in 2016 that make me worry about “our way of life.” One