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  • Rosanne Bostonian

Denial, Reactivity and Other Muckety Muck

To prevent unnecessary suffering we have to be awake. We think we know what we need, so we hold on for dear ego life and use a variety of mechanisms to try to prevent awakening. Why? Because awakening challenges existing beliefs. This is known as “resistance,” and it causes a boat load of suffering.

None of us is immune to thinking we know. The mind becomes the terrible master and easily forgets it is only a servant. A servant of what? Of Divine Intelligence that goes beyond the limits of the human mind.

This doesn’t mean we don’t have choices, but the choices have to come from facing our fears and dissolving them with our transparency. Transparency means less ego me and more of the I that I am. In other words, less of a material definition of who we think we are and faith that if we yield to an energy form that is limitless, we may feel transient pain but we won’t suffer.

Denial is a huge culprit. “If I don’t know it’s happening it isn’t happening.” Really? Then there’s reactivity. “If anything challenges my belief system, I will react to it and destroy it.” We can come up with a laundry list of ways which each of us has devised to guard ourselves from truth. These ways are usually visible in others, but not so much in ourselves.

If you are fortunate enough to have an objective mentor who can see through your opaqueness, peel off a few layers, and get to the suffocating soul within, consider yourself blessed ten-fold. It’s so easy to get lost in the labyrinth of self-deception.

Here is a mantra I’ve discovered with an explanation:

Aad Guray Nameh, Jugaad Guray Nameh,

Sat Guray Nameh, Siri Guroo Dayv-ay Nameh Aad Such Jugaad Such Hai Bhee Such Nanak Hosee Bhee Such Aad Such Jugaad Such Hai Bhai Such Nanak Hosee Bhai Such

The Triple Mantra, not surprisingly, does three things. The first part will surround you with a powerful and protective light. The second part will remove obstacles from your spiritual path and the third part will remove obstacles from your daily life.

I will be singing along with you.

With love,


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